June 29, 2011
Anna Paquin addresses anti-bisexual prejudice
The Oscar-winning actress told V magazine: “There is a lot of prejudice against us but the more people talk about it, the less of a deal it will be.”
Paquin publicly announced her bisexuality last year, in a public service announcement video made for the True Colors LGBT equality campaign.
Although the revelation was met with surprise, Paquin, who is married to co-star Stephen Moyer, remains undaunted. On coming out, she says: “Frankly, no one had ever asked me before. … Who people choose to sleep with — or spend their lives with — shouldn’t matter, not that anyone particularly cares who I’m attracted to.”
In the interview, previewed by USA Today ahead of the publication of the Fall issue of V magazine, the actress also discusses feeling “like an outsider” and how men and women both tend to fall for her husband.
Her comments follow the announcement that the forthcoming season of her vampire drama True Blood, which has been praised for its portrayal of gay and bisexual character in the past, will see a formerly straight character feature in a coming-out story line.
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June 6, 2012
Spare me. The bitch did what ALL bisexuals do, she married a MAN. So what does her opinion even matter?
anyone please cheer me up & tell me about a famous bisexual who chose a woman.
What do you mean by “what does her opinion even matter?”, Angela? Why is her opinion less valid or important because she married a member of the opposite sex?
“All are equal, but some are more equal than others”? I should think that this kind of prejudice is precisely what we are trying to fight.
@ Bella…. her opinion means nothing because she’s living according to straight society. She has the priviledges that go alongside straight society. She is just another bullshit bisexual. She should keep her nose out of our community and worry about her “hubby”.
Let’s see I was rejected from the military, I decided to let go of a football scholarship because of fear of homophobia, I was rejected from my father and told to leave, went from home to home, finally found a gay community and was ridiculed for being bisexual at 19. I continued to date both men and women. I was a victim of physical assault and vandalism (a hate crime) while in a same sex relationship, was assaulted at a bachelor party for being queer, faced continually harassment from gay men mostly in professional environments because I suppose I was bisexual bullshit. The gay community has a lot to learn about straight priveldge as gays seem to have a lot more priveledge. If I gave a full list it would be more startling. BIGOTRY is BIGOTRY. Should LGBT just be called LG and we she stop the farce the gays and lesbians even care about their peers? Please. One of my best friends is a bi man in a ten year committed relationship with a man. I am now dating a bi woman we have both throughout our lives just dated who we were attracted and who we made a connection with.
Y’know, I’ve not met a single bisexual who had a cruel word to say about gay or lesbian people.
You haters should be taking a long hard look in the mirror instead of giving people shit about who they sleep with. Or maybe you’re alright with your hypocrisy. Personally I think you’re revolting.
Anna married the PERSON she loved, not the GENDER. She may be in a ‘hetero’ relationship, but she is still bisexual. Who knows? Maybe she doesn’t stick with him and finds a woman. No one can know, so no one should judge.
Bisexuals are no more different than gays, lesbians, or straight peoples. All are with the people they love. Why should anyone be against that?
Funny how bisexual women always claim to have ended up with the PERSON they love and not the gender, but for some reason the GENDER of the PERSON they love always tends to be MALE. Bisexuals are full of shit.
Always tends?
Of course they’re going to tend to end up with men, you blithering bigot, straight men outnumber lesbian/bi women by a huge amount. It’s a matter of numbers.
@ Sacha….Take that same old bullshit story to someone who buys it. If it’s a matter of numbers, why don’t they just keep their asses over on the hetero side and leave the WOMEN WHO REALLY LOVE WOMEN to us lesbians. Straight men love bisexual women so they’ll never run out of MEN to fuck around with until the find a MAN to settle down with. They’re more trouble to ourcommunity than they’re worth.
Fabian, why do you have the privilege of deciding who should be ‘in’ and ‘out’? If you’d rather sit in your ivory tower with all the pureblood lesbians that’s perfectly alright by me, just don’t sling your shit over the side while you’re doing it.
Or were you never taught to treat others as you’d like to be treated?
bisexuals are like interracial dating. Of course it’s great; you love who you love.
But in reality it’s usually black men who date white women…& black women are angry & hurt at being rejected.
That’s how we lesbians feel, bi women 9 out of 10 times choose men & we feel angry & hurt at being rejected. And until things change that’s the way it will be…
Sacha, we don’t want to deal with you bullshitting bisexuals. Deal with it. Maybe you bisexuals should take your own advice and learn to treat folks the way ya’ll want to be treated. Stick to men and your fellow bisexuals and leave lesbians alone.
Fabian, I’m not bi, but I’d rather stick to bisexuals than lesbians like you.
Bella, by all means feel free. Just make sure you get tested before venturing backing to dating lesbians babe.
Fabian, you’re not paying attention. Nothing would make me happier than leaving you and everyone who shares your views alone. However, you’re the ones stirring and being unpleasant.
Maybe if you can manage to keep a civil tongue in your head we can each pretend the other doesn’t exist and everyone will be happier.
@ Sacha ..Well, I don’t think its productive to edit myself in order to appease people. Just because the things I say make you uncomfortable doesn’t make them any less true. And if leaving behind those of us who’d rather have relationships with folks who don’t desire penis makes you happy, then please board the next train to bisexual town and never return. Deal?
I don’t hate bisexuals but I would have to be naive/stupid in order to date one. We can be friends but otherwise they are a no no.
I know plenty of lesbians who have been attracted men in the past, and are therefore technically bi. They simply prefer being with women. I don’t know any bisexuals who ended a lesbian relationship expressly to be with a man. The lesbians that I know who were hurt by bisexuals usually chose to take a punt on someone who was still struggling with their sexual identity. Frankly, with the amount of hostility on the gay side, is there any on wonder that struggle still exists?
Please stop it with that dumbass “everyone is ‘TECHNICALLY’ bi” bullshit. Do not tell other people how to identify, and do not override the way they choose to identify themselves.
If a so-called “lesbian” was attracted to men in the past then she is still attracted to them NOW. Attraction doesn’t just dissapear. This is another reason why so many lesbians dislike bisexuals, because bisexuals tend to MISLABEL themselves knowing full well that they are sexually attracted to men? Bisexuals use the lesbian label then turn around a fuck men which inturn cause harm to REAL lesbians. Ugh, bisexuals are just all around fucked up.
“anyone please cheer me up & tell me about a famous bisexual who chose a woman.”
Read more: http://lold.sneakypeak.me/tv-film/anna-paquin-addresses-anti-bisexual-predjudice/#ixzz1ayudDwpJ
.. Kristanna Loken
Anna Paquin is married to a man Stephen Moyer, so is Angelina Jolie and Anne Hecht and so on.
Wow
The comments posted here really have disappointed me. I know that you all are a much more empathetic group than this.
I think the first important point to remember is that: Bisexuality is not seen as a viable or even real sexual identity,or its seen as a black mark- case in point your comments. You all remember how confusing it was when you were a young teen, trying to figure out what your sexual orientation was. Its even more so confusing for bisexuals, because they generally don’t even consider the option that they are bi: because it doesn’t exist or is just people experimenting. So, they identify as lesbian, because that is really all they can think may be the case. After living in that lifestyle for a while they see that something is still off, and very slowly and gradually figure out that they are bisexual. To say cruel things about them because they are completely confused at the outset is not really very fair, as we have all been there.
Secondly:
It is unfair to say hurtful things about bisexuals who marry either men or women. The reality is that they are attracted to both. It can be very difficult for them to be married to either. Their sexual identity is rooted in the fact that they are attracted to both sexes. Marriage in effect makes half of their identity unattainable, and it can really screw with your sense of self. There will always come times in their married lives when they feel disconnected from themselves. When you came out of the closet it was a refreshing revelation. Bisexuals in monogamous relationships have a really hard time feeling that relief constantly, and go through periods of a sort of existential funk pretty regularly. And, while they are dealing with this they really don’t have a community they can reach out to for comfort and support. The straight community reacts to them very much as they do to lesbians, and the lesbian community reacts to them with contempt. I’m a grad student in mental health counseling and my focus is on women’s issues with a heavy influence on gender and sexuality issues (as well as trauma but that is unrelated) and I can tell you that many of the bisexual women I have seen are conflicted for a much longer period of time than lesbians are and really struggle with having no real sense of community to reach out to.
@Fabian: again, you do not seem to be paying attention. I think it’s been made clear that not everyone shares your view, lesbian or otherwise, and if people were to limit themselves to others without such ridiculous and vile bigotry, you’d be the one with the short straw of the deal.
And if you truly believe that lesbians are free of STDs, then… good luck with that…?
@Tina: I don’t see why you believe that bisexuals /have/ to have a relationship with men, or have to leave their female partner for a male. That’s… a very odd assumption to make.
Anyway, famous bisexuals who are currently dating women: Kristanna Loken, Iyari Limon, Sandra Bernhard. Possibly Lena Katina & Yulia Volkova, though probably not anymore.
Most famous bisexuals actually seem to be single/undisclosed, that I know of, and if you exclude famous ‘bisexuals’ that have never actually dated a woman (making it probably only a marketing ploy), most famous bisexuals out there seem to be either single or dating women.
@ Bella, who made the claim that everyone shares my views? My views are mine. It just so happens that plenty of lesbians agree with me. If YOU want to date bisexuals, have at it. No one is stopping you or even trying to. But don’t try to force those of us who have no desire to engage in sexual activity with those who engage in sexual activity with men to open ourselves up to being a bisexuals’ plaything. And Tina made a great point about bisexuals leaving their gf’s for men. Bisexuals can’t live without men and you know it just as much as I do, you’re just too pc to admit it. Also I never said lesbians didn’t have STD’S but i’m not so ignorant as to deny that bisexuals are a greater risk to lesbians who sleep with them. And get real girl, most famous bi’s are WITH MEN or will end up with them. Typical!
No bisexuals for me thanx
I know that many people will feel my comment isn’t too valid, because I’m still at school and have no real experience. However, I’d like to say that some of these comments are incredibly hurtful.
Last year, I began to wonder if I wasn’t straight. I currently have a typical high school crush on my female friend. It’s not ‘true love’ or anything so deep, but it’s more than friendship. However, I feel attraction to both men and women.
It may just be a ‘phase’. It may be a platform for me realising I’m a lesbian. But I feel attraction to both sexes so therefore I am bisexual. It exists. It is the label that describes me best, as constricting as labels are. All I know is that I would never use a girl, or a boy, as a sexual experiment. My orientation does not define my behaviour. I am equally as likely to marry a woman as a man. It all depends who I fall in love with.
This past year of my life has been so painful and confusing. I’ve only recently been able to tell someone. To be told that your feelings are invalid and that ‘your kind’ are selfish and unwanted, by a community that you felt would support you, hurts so much.
Isobel, not all lesbians are like that. I for one have had relationships with bisexual women, and one of them basically dumped me for a guy. Despite this, I have no hatred for bisexual women. They are a part of the spectrum that is so wonderful about the LGBTA-Z community. It’s sad that this community still has prejudices–but hell, no one’s perfect. Anyways, just wanted to let you know not everybody is like that.
@Fabian: Oh yes, clearly your evidence is overwhelming… Oh, wait. You didn’t give any.
Jessica Marie made great points; bisexuals have different experiences and issues. To get the support they need they need; bi women organize!
Bi women don’t fit in to either the straight or lesbian paradigm & that’s the big issue. So they need to make support groups, dating groups everything. I think that’s part of the lesbian hostility, we’re so small & we really don’t want to talk about men or that you like them. That won’t ever change. So Bi women need their own spaces to be themselves!
Atleast Rory understands that bisexuals need a space seperate from lesbians. Bisexuals should stick to themselves. They can talk about their love of men amongst eachother.
People.
Tell me why on earth you’re saying bisexuals:
a) should just turn heterosexual and leave you alone.
b) mostly date men.
c) should just turn heterosexual and leave you alone /because/ they mostly date men.
And not see the link?
Plus, I really don’t want to talk about either men or women with you, Fabian. Duh, most talks about relationships are the same except when talking about sex… You basically talk about the hand of your wife and how you think the person is cute, or how you are afraid she might get angry since she’s vegan and you bought her by error real leather boots and how you should return these… Switch the genders, same stuffs.
Also, one day a girlfriend dumped me for someone more muscular. She liked both muscular and chubby people, but people her kind always ends up with muscular folks, what a bunch of hateable folks. (no, really? it’s ironic. you only see the persons’ gender, plus in a binary way, but it’s not only their gender that is different from your!)
@Pasu, ummm WHAT?