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Dear Sappho. I broke up with my partner a couple of months ago. It was a bad break up and we both got really hurt by it. I know that we would never be able to have a healthy relationship again. However, we are still having sex. It is really amazing – better than ever in fact. Something about this just feels wrong though. What should I do? Jane, 31, Manchester

Your story is not uncommon. Doesn’t make it any healthier.

Why is it that lesbians do this to themselves? They put themselves in a situation where they have to break up with someone for a second time. That’s what you’ve got to do – end it. Now. Alternatively you could do it in a few weeks or months – depends how long you want this toxic mess to drag on for.

The sex may be good, but it always is on some level when something ‘feels wrong’. You are taking comfort in each other, when, quite frankly, you should be getting comfort from rebound sex with other people (or from your own company depending on how secure you are…)

Are you strong enough to make a clean break?

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