Say it to Sappho: Do I have an STI or is it guilt?
December 18th, 2009 by Sappho
“Dear Sappho I have been with my girlfriend now for nearly 3 years. We do not have sex as much as we used to and I have recently had a couple of flings with other women. I have noticed that my vagina feels hot and I have had problems when I go to the toilet. Could this be guilt or maybe because I am being reawaken sexually or do you think I might have caught something?” Worried, West Midlands
It is possible that you have physical manifestations of your feelings however it is also possible that you have a sexually transmitted infection (STI). You need to check this out with your GP or local GUM clinic. The clinics usually have women only sessions and are confidential.
If you intend to have sex you should avoid sharing bodily fluids as if you have an infection you may pass it on. The problem with having sex with people you don’t know well is you generally don’t know their sexual history so are at more risk of picking something up.
As far as your relationship with your partner goes you need to respect her feelings as well as her health. If you cannot talk to her about your changing feelings and needs then maybe you are not in the right relationship? Polyamory is always a possibility but will likely cause a lot of heart ache in the future if it is not a fully mutual choice.
Do you have a sex/relationship problem you need Sappho’s help with? Email Sappho@lesbilicious.co.uk, and remember to include a name, age and location.
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sound advice Sappo
alan lamb ∼ May 13th, 2010 9:22 pm