Say it to Sappho: Her dad is sleazy
June 3rd, 2010 by Sappho
“Dear Sappho I have been with my girlfriend now for a few months and she recently introduced me to her parents. It went well and we have gone out with them a few times now. The last time we all went out we had all be drinking quite a lot and her father started being really suggestive. I laughed it off even though it made me feel uncomfortable, but when I was at the bar he approached me and said if I ever wondered what it was like to sleep with a man he could show me. I’m pretty sure he was not joking but I was drunk and might be exaggerating the situation. Do you think I should tell my girlfriend?” Anon, Westminster
The consequences of sharing something like this with your partner are difficult to predict. It may affect your relationship together as she may not believe you or be willing to accept that her father would do this. It may cause some damage to her relationship with her father in a way that she finds difficult to manage. There could also be repercussions for other members of her family. So whatever you choose to do, take your time. Think about how to go about it and be prepared to deal with the possible implications.
You mentioned that you may have been over sensitive. Her father may have different boundaries of acceptability to you. He may be ignorant to the fact that what he is saying is offensive. Maybe you could be more direct in telling him that he makes you feel uncomfortable (should he make you feel like this again). Maybe prepare something to say in case you are too shocked. A warning may make him think twice about crossing the line again.
Ultimately, his behaviour is unacceptable. It is disrespectful to you and it is disrespectful to his daughter. He is responsible for putting you in this situation and don’t be too hard on yourself whatever the consequences are of how you choose to deal with this.
Do you have a sex/relationship problem you need Sappho’s help with? Email Sappho@lesbilicious.co.uk, and remember to include a name, age and location.
Well reasoned, as always.
Anonymous ∼ June 6th, 2010 12:47 pmI have been having alot of problems with mt wife. She is the love of my life but has been driving me nutsn recently with her ludacris antics and somtimes i get so pissed off I almost want to hit her I ve been thinking about leaving her but i know i would miss her dearly and may not be able to get her back. Do you have any advice
Tegan ∼ July 18th, 2010 9:08 pm