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“Dear Sappho. My best friend came onto me when we had both been out drinking. I love her dearly but am not sexually attracted to her. I laughed it off at the time and we have not spoken about it since. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I find I am awkward around her now. I’m worried we can never be as close as we once were as it is always at the back of my mind. I really miss the way we were and I don’t know what to do for the best.” Michelle, London

If the incident is playing on your mind to the point where you are behaving oddly around her she is likely to have noticed. If this continues it will ultimately damage your friendship.

As always, communication is the key. You need to talk about it. Find out how she feels and let her know how you feel. This may be a scary prospect but it would be a shame to sacrifice your relationship based on a misunderstanding. You may be blowing things out of proportion and worrying needlessly.

If you find that she is attracted to you then this does not have to be the end of your friendship. You might need some space but with a basis of honesty, you might have a chance at working things out.

If you carry on letting it eat you up then you risk creating unbreakable barriers between you both.

Do you have a sex/relationship problem you need Sappho’s help with? Email Sappho@lesbilicious.co.uk, and remember to include a name, age and location.

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