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“Dear Sappho. There is a hot straight girl at work who flirts with me. It started off innocently and jokey but she actually tried to force me to kiss her a couple of weeks ago. I pushed her away because she has a boyfriend and I don’t want to be a guinea pig. She has started ignoring me since then and it is really doing my head in. I do fancy her and I think she knows it. I feel like she is just messing with my head. I don’t know if I should pursue this or not.. help!” S, 27, Goole

I think you do know whether or not you should pursue it. You didn’t kiss her because she has a boyfriend and you don’t want to be an experiment. She is now playing hard to get and all of a sudden you are interested. You are being sucked into a game.

There is a strong possibility that this girl is confused about her sexuality and has been for some time. Then you come along as a lesbian who is out and who she is attracted to in some way. You are a safe bet for her to push her own boundaries and test the water. We can all understand where she might be at, but that isn’t an excuse to use you. You do have feelings. Like guinea pigs do.

I am not saying that a beautiful romance couldn’t possibly blossom from such messy beginnings, but it is highly unlikely. You will know when she really likes you because she will break up with her boyfriend and she will chase you in a way that shows some respect for you and for herself. In the meantime, she is hanging on to her boyfriend and hoping you will help her gain some clarity before she takes any risks.

Is this the kind of relationship you are looking for? Do you love her unconditionally and therefore not care? I doubt it at this stage. Don’t underestimate the power of forbidden fruits to make you feel like you really want something, when in reality, you don’t.

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